“The meeting of preparation with opportunity generates the offspring we call luck.”
I will admit I have never been one for achieving goals. Goals and holding myself accountable scare the crap out of me. Whether it’s yoga, life, relationship goals, I almost see setting deadlines as a confrontation which I tend to avoid in general (that’s another topic I should address!). In order to achieve goals you have to change a lot of your current habits (some perhaps unhealthy but comfortable!) and obviously, if you want something you've never had you must be willing to do something you've never done (Thomas Jefferson).
I have always been unnecessarily kind to myself any time I have very slowly worked toward a goal and I use the word ‘work’ very loosely here! But without a step by step plan set in place it often ends up either taking 10 times longer than it should, or more often than not, simply flailing into the abyss. With this feeling of failure I have always become even less motivated, more likely to never believe in my capabilities of achieving my dreams like others who inspire me. Don’t worry, if you're sitting there nodding your head as you read through this (with that guilty sickness in the pit of your stomach) then I am here to tell both you and me, we can do this!
So in order to achieve those 2019 goals we must do five things:
Dream : So firstly one must be very specific in their dream or goal. Where will you be, what will it look like, how will it feel? You have to feel deeply rooted in passion for this dream, alongside a sense of it being truly authentic to your core values and beliefs. Don't make the mistake of getting distracted by other people’s well-formed dreams. Shiny object syndrome is unfortunately a set up for failure :(
Believe : It cannot be denied that our beliefs about what and who we are can shape and mould our lives. If we believe in magic magical things will happen. If we place limitations on our dreams and have narrow expectations of our capabilities then we are going to follow through with results which reflect these beliefs.
Plan : A plan is a recognition that the most talented humans also need to find the right avenue. Plan for interference. It is important to acknowledge that some things might get in the way of simply not go to plan. Give yourself a short buffer period to take these short-comings into account. If you want to be really specific you might have a plan B. Let’s say Plan A fails miserably and isn't working out resulting in you feeling unworthy etc. Why not write out obvious things that could go wrong and either put things in place to avoid them or if they happen, know what actions to take. Create a time line for yourself so that have a realistic time-frame considering all of the above! Step by step you must write out, to the best of your knowledge, the small and big things you will have to start doing daily/weekly/monthly.
Communication : Yoga has taught me so much in the skill of communication, not only when communicating with others, but even more importantly with myself. This is going to separate you from those other goal getters out there! When you are faced with obstacles, of which there are certain to be many, whether you continue on the path toward your goal will depend on how you communicate with yourself. When these challenges arise will you communicate that experience to yourself in a way that you can reroute and change things to your advantage? Or will you resort to blame and self pity projecting a swift end to your building progress?
My Goals (drum roll please!) :
I am SHIT SCARED sharing these with you. But here it goes…..
Complete my 300 teacher training with Dylan Werner (I am currently on the waitlist for the June one)
Hit 15,000 followers on Instagram
Hit 5,000 followers on Youtube
Hit 100 subscription based clients in Sweaty Soul
Double my wages so that I can comfortably pay rent, bills, holidays.
Create an online yoga class series
I am of the opinion, especially in knowing myself and my reactionary habits so well, that it is a curse to believe in anything TOO much. I feel that an irrational belief in something can be setting yourself up for failure, and from 30 years of believing in goals momentarily with no follow through, I know this for sure to be true. In my decision to believe in my dreams and goals I have to let go of that sense of expectation which I know from experience has left me feeling depleted and eventually losing sight of my vision. With belief must come the expectation of failures and obstacles. I have written out, for myself, under each goal, exactly how I envision not only the result, but the day-to-day journey toward it. I am PUMPED to get 2019 off to such a positive start and I hope that if we all share our goals, especially the BIG ones that scare the bejaysus out of us, we can help each other stay focused and encourage one another when the road ahead seems lost.
"Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe." - Oprah Winfrey